How To Handle Toxic People

How To Handle Toxic People

There’s times when it feels like all the charisma in the
world just won’t stop one person from ruining your day. Now, maybe this person is a complainer, maybe they are a whiner, or maybe there’s someone who is verbally abusive to you but whatever it is, they have this toxic pattern of behavior and it’s really starting to bring you down. And that’s why in this video, I want to talk about how to handle difficult toxic people in a way that is charismatic but before we get into the steps and there’s four of those, I have to talk about a mindset that not a lot of people like because I get asked this question all the time — “There’s a person in my workplace. What do we do
about them? There’s someone in my friend group” or maybe “I even have this family member…” The answer nine out of ten times is that you need to separate from that person because what’s keeping you close to them is not something that ought to; sometimes it’s a sense of guilt — “We’ve been friends for a long time. It would be wrong and disloyal of me to separate
even though they’re abusive towards me verbally.” Or maybe it’s a sense of, “I need everyone to like me and the fact that this one person is having an issue, that doesn’t sit well with me so I need to work it out.” Sometimes you work with them and you feel like,
“This is the best job I could possibly get,” and I will tell you, when I’ve talked to people
and they have left, no one has ever regretted it; you would be shocked how much you can be dragged
down by a negative person in the workplace. So before we get into the steps to change this, just know in the back of your head that there may come a time when you do need to walk and sometimes it can even be with family but I’ll talk about that; for now, the four steps. The first thing and probably the most important one is that you need to approach this person in a way that is completely different from how you’ve ever approached them because
chances are, you’ve tried to change this behavior in the past. They come home from work, maybe it’s your roommate, and they just unload. They start complaining about their day, the sports team, the weather or whatever and you always try to kind of cheer them up. The time to actually change that behavior is not right when they’re complaining because if it was, it would have worked by now. In this case, you might want to wait, let them unload, and then a few hours later say, “Hey, I’ve been kind of worried about you. Do you have a minute to talk?” That’s gonna put them to, “Whoa, what’s going on here?” and it’s gonna open them up, break their pattern, and now you guys have a chance to speak. If you guys just get into it — you guys start shouting and yelling — in the middle of an argument, you might find that just getting really quiet and saying, “I really care about you and it’s upsetting that we fight like this,” that can shift the entire tone and where you’ve been trying to get your point across, all of a sudden, they’re cracked wide open because it’s a shift in pattern. So whatever it is, shift the time, shift the place, and shift the way that you approach the situation; this is the most important step for getting
that person receptive to changing any kind of bad pattern. I will tell you, one of the things that most often is a break and really opens people up is this phrase — “I just wanted to let you know, I care a lot about our relationship and it’s not where I’d like it to be and I’d like to make it better so can we talk about it?” That’s not something that a lot of people do. They don’t do it with their friends, their family, and coworkers and oftentimes, aside from just breaking their state, it makes them not feel attacked because when you come and you say, “You’ve got to stop complaining,” that person locks down and now you’re attacking their behavior and they feel like you’re attacking who they are. But when you come in and say, “I care about a relationship,”
now you’re moving towards a solution together. So that’s the first thing — open them up. But before you do this, you have to come in with a specific ask. You need to know concretely what behavior you want
to stop and what behavior you want to see instead. What a lot of people do here is they come in and they say, “I just don’t want you to complain all the time” or “I just wish you weren’t such a jerk,” and this just creates an argument almost every single time because now you’re talking about, “I don’t complain all
the time” or “who’s a jerk? Me? I’m not a jerk. You’re a jerk.” Instead, get concrete about the behavior that you want to see. For instance, today, when we were picking out the movie, you were focused on how my movie was a dumb idea and instead, rather than just, “Hearing how my idea wasn’t the best one, I would appreciate
if you would talk about something instead that we both might like,” or if it’s someone that constantly is being verbally abusive you could say, “Look, you called me a loser on this occasion and this occasion
and I want to ask you, please, don’t ever call me a loser again.” Now, when you’ve already set this situation up by coming in a way that breaks their pattern, this concrete ask is one that almost always hits and it even better when you say, “I also want to open the floor here. If there’s something that I’m doing concretely that you can tell me that’s making this hard for us to have a really good relationship, let me know because I want this to be good. I’m not just telling you that you’re the jerk; I just want us both to be happier in our interactions with each other.” That sort of reciprocity goes a long, long way. So you’ve done this, you guys are conversing, you’re probably having the first good conversation you’ve had in a long time… one thing that you’re going to want to do to make this go forward and not just be a one-time thing that immediately slips back is ask their permission to gently remind them. And what this means is that there’s gonna be times when you guys are out where this person just has a habit of being critical and say negative things and you’re out in public and they start saying, “Oh, yeah. My buddy is such a loser, right?” and they might just get caught up in this, what you want to have done and said in this conversation is, “If it does come up again where you call me a loser, is it okay with you if I just give you a little tap and say,
‘Hey, man. Remember?’ because I don’t want that to happen.” So you say this previously, now you’re in the situation they start to go into it, and you give him that tap and you go, “Hey, man. Remember what we talked about?” and they can shut it down right there. They don’t have to feel embarrassed and not everybody around needs to know about it, they’re not getting called out in an aggressive way and they’ve given you permission
— this is so, so huge — to give them that gentle nudge. So all that push back that they might have felt is quelled a little bit. They’re gonna be much more open to actually adjusting their behavior in real time. Keep this up and do this with all of the behaviors that aren’t working. If you need to you might have to do it a couple times with someone who is especially difficult or toxic and this can go a long, long way. Now, I want to talk about the cases that are really, really hard — the edge cases — and oftentimes, this is family because quite frankly, a lot of people come to me with financial ties — my boss, my co-workers, my this or that and I’ve said this but I just want to reiterate, I have never spoken to someone who was at a job, they were in a toxic work environment, they got out of it, they were nervous and they regretted it. Maybe it took him a minute to get back on their feet financially but they always did better off and I think back to my own childhood where my dad had a boss that was a great jerk for years and I saw it play out in him and I know, even that he was the breadwinner in our household, I would have preferred — and it did eventually happen
if you work presents during Christmas — I would have preferred we didn’t have to to move to a
smaller house so that my dad didn’t have to take that. So if you think that you’re doing the right thing for your family or for yourself by just enduring abuse, trust me, it comes out in
other ways and it makes you irritable; it’s not worth it. So break that scenario, get out, you will appreciate it, and I think the people around you will appreciate it too but going back to family, sometimes there’s patterns that are just stuck and this can occur sometimes when you have substance abuse in a family and I’ve gotten these questions and they’re so hard. Somebody’s dad or somebody’s brother is just destroying their life and they love this person but they don’t know what to do. And they’ve done this thing and it’s just not clicking. What can you do in this scenario? Well, really, the best thing that you can do is recognize that oftentimes, you are not the person who is equipped to help them. So you want to take this entire step which is going to be to find a time, break their pattern, come up with an ask, ask them to be gently reminded but the ask is going to shift to change this behavior, “Don’t drink so much or don’t do drugs” to “come to therapy with me” or “attend Alcoholics Anonymous just for a month to check it out. Go to Landmark Forum…” whatever it is, you’re going to and want to enlist the aid of a professional third party because when it is something as serious as substance abuse or it’s a long-standing family dynamic of abuse, it’s often not enough to just ask for surface-level behavior changes. You guys need ongoing support; you need a third party to get in there. If it doesn’t work, and this can sometimes be the case, you do have a difficult decision and that’s whether to accept this person as they are — there might be negativity, there might be verbal abuse, there could be something even worse like physical abuse — and you can accept that; I don’t recommend it. Or you can separate and that is so hard. I don’t envy anyone who has to make this decision but I do hope to just impart one bit of courage on to you if you find yourself in this situation that separating from them in that moment doesn’t mean that you’re separating forever and in fact, you’re not necessarily doing them kindness by staying and allowing such a miserable situation to perpetuate itself. Sometimes, separating can signal that you are serious that what you want with them is an excellent positive relationship and that you’re not going to settle while they destroy their life around you; it doesn’t always create the change but tacitly approving of what they’re doing and allowing it to continue isn’t always the best way and I know that this is a complicated situation, I don’t mean to insinuate that anyone is doing it wrong, it is so heavy and so complicated but I just wanted to lend that little bit of support if you do find yourself in a situation where you feel like you might need to untangle yourself from someone who is very, very close to you . So for 98% of the scenarios, the first steps that we ran through are going to really help. You’re going to get yourself out of that, you’re going to work with the person, they’re going to change the behavior and I hope that you actually put this into practice. So that is it for this video; if you’ve enjoyed it, make sure to subscribe to the channel and for more tips on how to handle all kinds of different situations, how to be more confident, make amazing first impressions, and of course, to watch our video breakdowns of charismatic celebrities. If you liked it, click Subscribe, click that bell I will see you next week in the video and if you want, tomorrow on the livestream at 11 a.m. Pacific time on
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Danny Hutson

100 thoughts on “How To Handle Toxic People

  1. What about the type that continuously bully you? You try your best to ignore and you can't confront them because they're cowards. They bully from a distance.

  2. Man you are sooooooooooo awesome. Love your work and the conviction and compassion with which you speak. ❤️

  3. I'm someone who enters situations looking for the greatest good for everyone involved. When someone else comes in with baggage or clear passive aggression, it upsets me but somehow I'm never quite ready for it. I tend to blame myself first, and it takes a lot before I start thinking that maybe it's actually the other person's fault for carrying tension and hostility into their relationship with me, where it doesn't belong. However, the reality is that people judge others all the time for the smallest things. Most of us can recognize that our off-the-bat judgments are rather silly, and if this person is going to be in our lives for a while then we need to be open-minded and willing to challenge ourselves to see past surface appearances. People who cannot do that are people who need to be in jobs and situations where they don't need to interact with others, because they're inevitably going to wind up negatively impacting the people around them.

    I've learned too that many people are allergic to the truth, and just stating "when you do x, I feel y" freaks them out. When I can't even state my emotions clearly and be heard, then they're telling me with their behavior that they are not ready or willing to be in mutually respectful relationships.
    When I step back from that relationship, I realize that this person cannot do this with anyone. It's not just me, it's their entire perspective towards human relationships. I can't change that for them.

  4. Landmark Forum? Oh no! The guy who started that cult is a former Scientologist who brought the brainwashing techniques over. Please tell me you aren't into that stuff…

  5. I’m working with toxic people who are constantly bringing me down. This one girl in particular, told me she hated me when she first met me. When I got promoted, it triggered this girl to say horrible things about me to my coworkers and close customers. Since she was there longer than me, and closer to most of my coworkers, it tainted my image there. Now she’s leaving, but I still feel like the toxicity is lingering. I’m going to move on. Thank you for your inspiration!

  6. I used to try to speak with people, adjusting my behavior, shifting tactics… The last time I had a tough relationship with a coworker he ended calling me toxic, I just thought " omg am I toxic person?" And I came to the conclusion that that itself was just something he said to hurt me. I genuinely cared about him and talked to him about things he did to self destroy (nothing too extreme, things like "you should sleep for your health"). I didn't know it bothered him, just one day he called me toxic and left me behind hurting our business. Sometimes I wonder what could I have done to make things better. It is really hard if someone thinks that you are toxic to change your behavior if you just don't know. I am not a toxic PERSON, I just have my toxic moments I guess. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone is trying to be the best that they can. I tried to repair that relationship and he just didn't want to speak to me ever again. I tried to understand, but I just can't. Now I am more oriented to not talk about myself, I am trying to be a better listener, but is extremely hard tondo things if you have no feedback. Bottomline: speak when you need something (or wait a couple of hours) but don't let months, years go by. Odds are the other person wants a good relationship too.

  7. Imo a good assertive comeback to use with someone who is yelling or cursing at you is to say "I don't care for that tone you're using." or "I don't appreciate being talked to like that."

  8. I don’t like calling people toxic. I think it is more compassionate to say people engage in toxic behaviours.

  9. Can you (or have you already) do a video helping introverts with social anxiety overcome/stand up against direct verbal attacks from bullying personalities?

  10. What if they are in group of 3 always correcting me and showing me how they are always God like right and making fun of you. Should you even try to fit in or leave.?? They always wanna listen what feels good to them ask me to say what they feel good not my genuine thoughts, always giving counter argument. Should i even try to tell them dat i dont feel good becoz later on my surrendering to them like i need you but dont make fun of me. They will say its cool btw frnds and its not cool when i do the same. Pls answer.

  11. In other words, how to deal with a leftist. I swear, you can't argue with them, they'll just automatically call you a racist, far right Nazi, even if you're a liberal. Like Dave Rubin, the New York Times blamed him for youtube making people "radicals" on the far rights.

  12. God bless you! I came across your videos today and this is my favorite so far. I am in the process of detaching from my alcoholic Dad and it's pretty painful.

  13. What if it is your girlfriend the most toxic person you know? Sometimes I can't handle with complaints and whinings about her job no more.

  14. Thank you for this video. It delivers a solid and thoughtful advice without wandering off to other topics, and provides food for thought. I tend to just cut toxic people off, but you can’t do that forever, so it is really good to know another methods.

  15. I like your ideas but I cannot see situations in which those who are in the habit of calling someone a loser would stop doing it because you politely bring it up in the conversation and ask them to stop doing it. But perhaps I am wrong. It just seems unlikely to succeed at face value as the motivation behind someone calling someone else a loser are to hit a target and if the victim assures the bully they hit their intended target, then they might persist even more gleefully

  16. To say: ”I’ve been kind of worried about you” is passive aggressive (toxic). It’s not the truth of what you feel in that situation.

  17. I have been abused emotionally, mentally and verbally by my older sister for my who life. She doesn't do drugs or drink, she's just a terrible and evil person. To deal with it, I've built my bedroom into the ultimate gaming, reading and writing room. I now lock myself in my room whenever I am home and I never leave my room unless I need food or to use the washroom.

  18. Very toxic person(bordeline-narc.)wouldnt even alow you to remind them how to behave..I have one in my family( less contact or shuty-shuty-as less conversation as possible)is kinda the only way to live a normal life with them!They see everything as an attack

  19. Obscene fundy XXXians actually believe & behave that they are always 'right'(because the almighty is speaking directly & personally through them [except he's not]) & when they identify YOU as the enemy of their pathetic gawd, you are automatically 'wrong'…..What then?

  20. This was an issue with my ex. He’s nice guy, great heart. But he’s a problem finder, not a problem solver. My mom has cancer and he’d come to me and complain for HOURS and not even ask how her chemo was going, or how I was doing about it. I’m also chronically ill, and he knows this is going to haunt me until I die, and usually am in pain when we are actively talking. I try very hard not to complain, because it can’t be changed and I know he’ll feel like he wants to fix it, and he can’t, and it’s a bad feeling. But he’ll go on about a stubbed toe. “I jammed my finger in drawing up a syringe at work. It’s hurt for a few weeks and it’s getting better, but I doubt it’ll ever be quite the same.”

    He doesn’t understand why women aren’t… enthralled by him, and it feels like it’s too on the nose to say, “It’s because you’re so darn negative all the time.” He’s becoming a Nice Guy. “Girls just don’t want nice guys,” is something he recently said to me. I hate it, because he does have good qualities, but… when he lets it slip out and start to show through the veneer of New on any relationship, it starts to wear down the person he’s with, and not a lot of people look forward to that kind of interaction on the daily. Honestly I think his best bet is to find someone else negative and they can just be negative together. They can find all the problems and they can commiserate. Whether they’ll be equipped to fix any of them, I don’t know, but at least his misery will have company.

  21. I really appreciated this video. This is a realistic way to actually help where you can, and aide in the positive changes in others (and oneself) rather than avoiding outright and in some cases reinforcing or contributing to, other's toxic behaviors.

  22. I love how inspirational you are! it would mean so much if u checked out my channel 🙂 I want to inspire people like you!

  23. Hey Charlie, I was wondering, what is a good way to deal with unwanted space invasion? E.g. there is a neighbour of mine (in his 60s) who is quite touchy-feely, I feel he is opportunistic as well and will often hug me without warning. I'm not really comfortable with it but don't want to have a conversation with him about it. I am just left feeling like I don't really trust him but I don't know what I can do other than expect to be grabbed every now and then. I do not want to make a scene or upset him.

  24. Just to give you my impression to your speech – i think you´re overdoing the body language. Tone it a bit down. Not everything you say has to be amplified with gestures. At least for me, it´s getting distracting. It has it´s use but not with every phrase. Otherwise great tipps although it would be nice if you could tell us about your scientific sources you gain your knowledge from. Studies, Papers, Dissertations and so on.

  25. I don't feel ready to be that person to be like: "Hey, I want to save that relationship." Because I don't. I just want my co-worker not to be a shithead who spreads rumours just to make me and my other co-worker look bad. Like, once I overslept, because I was sick. She was like: "Bet she was just too drunk." Or when she is using her "I got three kids"- card and changes the roster, even if my other co-worker doesn't agree to swap shifts. Anyway, glad I got great bosses you can actually talk to when there is a problem like that.
    In the meantime, I do my job, be as honest and transparent as ever and wait for her to dig her own grave. Like, the best revenge is a life well lived.
    But given how friendly she seems to be whenever we work together, in contrast to what I hear from other co-workers and regular customers, I feel betrayed. And I sure won't let her off the hook and try to repair the relationship, because I simply can't trust her to be honest.

  26. This doesn’t work with narcissists. They enjoy the covert abuse. They are the exact opposite of a normal, garden-variety person because they WANT to perpetuate the abusive behavior patterns.

  27. Okay, I can do like 90% of what you said in this video. The only problem is, my grammar is bad and I don't know what words to choose when I encounter these situations. Is there anything you can give me advice on?? Or am I screwed? 😅

  28. I know I have bad, lifelong, ingrained patterns that I got from my family in childhood, esp. when I’m feeling insecure or hurt, vulnerable. And it’s hard, because this bad behavior is somewhat unaware autopilot in those states — the best help, the best friends, have had this magic ability to subtly redirect me, a gentle shift in the topic of the conversation or a way to say they care if I’m on a rant to nip it in the bud before it gets out of control. I find I NEED this correction to be aware, and when done gently it works wonders for a relationship. I’m more aware than I was and I’m aware there is still a lot of “awareness” to go. I’m bad at it too, I mess it up a lot, but kind understanding while also setting boundaries also goes so much further than anger.

  29. Let me see if I got this straight? The only two options are: 1) get them to change to your preference; and if that doesn't work: 2) cut them from you life, no matter what the cost. Wow.

    Something you could possibly think about adding to this advice on how to deal with a toxic person, something pretty simple, is to remind everyone that other people are out of our control. So giving others a wide birth and putting up with them as best we can, is the very FIRST thing anyone should try to do. And also perhaps ask, is this really a toxic person or are you just allowing yourself to be annoyed and irritated at behavior that is just different than what you'd prefer?

    Resiliency is a wonderful thing to cultivate. It allows us to deal with all kinds of unpleasant experiences not only with a lot less effort and frustration on our part. It also allows for different ways to deal with a person without having to ask for permission to assert ourselves. (Which is bad advice imo).

    Start by making it not about you. Do your best to deal with people as they are, and do your best to be in control of how you handle it. Don't play their game if you don't want to. Don't make a big deal about it. And don't make it about you. A decent person will take notice. A person who has issues, won't. Then that's the time to think about having the "talk" or walking away. And you don't have to ask permission to remind another person of your boundaries …gently, with kindness, with resolve, but especially with consistency. Define yourself. Try not to be a dick about it.

  30. I just had a negative experience with one of my Uncles, who remarked in front of other family members how I didn't come to enough family gatherings and how it was disappointing how I don't speak the family's native tongue. Keep in mind this guy has failed marriage, hasn't seen his kids in years, and lives on the other side of the planet. It would have felt so nice to point all that out in front of everyone but then I would have burned too many bridges.

  31. Just a quick little story of hope, similar to the end of the video – I was in a highly toxic relationship with a woman that I deeply cared for. She suffered from depression, and by constantly trying to make her feel good (which was rewarding for me, as a person), I was enabling her to not help herself through it; we were co-dependent. Legit, my entire life was spent with her, trying to ensure she never felt upset. Obviously, this was not healthy for either of us, and when I realized this and began talking to her about it, I quickly realized that we were too entangled in each other's lives and that we would easily fall into the same trap over and over again if we stayed together. It took a major amount of courage and was the hardest decision I've ever made, but we split up despite having plans for marriage.
    From my relationship with her, I learned and grew.
    A few months ago, we began talking again, and it is downright amazing to see how much she, too, has grown. She still has her own problems (as do I), but we've both learned to take care of ourselves. Though we are still getting to know each other again, we have discussed the possibilities of a future together and things seem to be moving in a positive direction. It baffles me to think that the positive relationship that I have now would have never happened had we not stepped away and removed ourselves from that toxic relationship. I'm glad to have my best friend back, and want other people to hear this, so that they, too, may have the strength to do what is necessary. So remember: it is never wrong to leave something good (or bad!) in search of something better. You never know where things might end up!

  32. I 100% agree that you need to separate yourself from that person. It really does help (especially in middle school) and when you don't it really hurts you emotionally. When you do separate from them you will thank yourself.

  33. Brah, I’ve been watching your videos for about 20 minutes, what’s your background? You’re what 22 years old?

  34. I just think that behind every toxic emotion someone flares there's fear, a past trauma, some wrong stuff going inside that person.. behind anyone who'd verbally shot you with their abuse gun they actually had those bitter leads inside them for a longer time than you might realize, and they earned in someway, at somewhere.
    so trying to be more understanding, to have a lenses that helps you see what's behind the scene could be benefiting and improve you mentally and emotionally.

  35. I will never forget how as a first year collage student wanted to explain my new roomate in a gentle way how she is a little bit spoiled…. and did it so nicely with added extra compliments…. and than she accepting all backfired on me: You are really weird, you are not cleaning properly bathroom, you are sometimes booring…. etc
    I was shocked and angry how much I wasted my energy to approach on her with the sensitivity and she didn't use that on me at all…
    Of course we never became good friends and never wanted to see her again! Today don't even know her name. But that feeling stays when you try your best but other side don't give a F… that did not helped my charisma in life! 😦

  36. I don't need to deal with toxic people because I play on Xbox and Nintendo also PC as well and sometimes mobile

  37. I have a good friend who quit smoking because her daughter asked her to. It's a powerful moment I think to have a child lovingly request the parent to be better.

  38. I just got the last of the toxic people out of my life. I've had a ton of toxic people from childhood and high school that I had to just completely break it off with. They always use your emotions and flaws against you to make you feel bad. I've helped a ton of people with money, places to stay, transportation, and every single time i got used and abused. Toxic people usually show zero gratitude. Done with that.

  39. If you are de as long with a true Narcissist, there is no changing them. You have to get away or they will destroy you.

  40. Hi thanks for sharing your advice and thanks for sharing that story about your dad. I can relate. Love your channel so much

  41. I have been making positive improvements for a few years now and the more I do the more I notice that i have toxic family and friends. I feel emotionally more stable than ever but when I'm around them I have noticed how down they bring my vibe and I'm trying to just view it as, there must be something I need to learn from them but its getting very difficult to stay in any sort of relationship with both friends and family. I end up feeling like less than or not good enough and our views and values are just so different that it's hard to be around them.

  42. I work with her so I cannot separate from her. A lot of people don't like her. If I approach her after work she literally holds her hand up and then brushes me away using her hand. She also overreacts to small things. Not sure there is anything I can do either

  43. One thing that I noticed people are more likely to become toxic if they hang out with you all the time. It's way more better to meet with them for a couple of times in week

  44. Often toxic people are narcissistic and therefore cannot be reasoned with. It’s the reason they are toxic in the first place!

  45. My toxic person was a coworker. She kept criticized/gossip about people to me and act friendly to their face. I couldn't help but wonder if she was doing the same thing to me. Turns out she was. The worse was when she dislikes a person, she'll scrutinize them to find fault and report them. It happened one to many times. She'd deny any responsibility and throw others under the bus. It was a mess. HR made us go through team building and harassment training before separating our group. She didn't last long in her new group.

  46. When I did the approach thing to the one who disliked me, it got worse. So I'm not confronting them anymore. I apologize for something I did not do and the atmosphere got worse. Maybe my confrontation went wrong. Everyone had their own reason why they hate a certain person. But sometimes, you do not need a reason to hate one. I can feel through their actions and their intentions if they really disliked me. Like, I don't even have to ask why, they just did. Period.

  47. Forget it. You cannot change people. No talk is going to help. What you can change is your attitude – don't take yourself so serious. Be more understanding and relaxed. All people are complex, messy and have their problems. If you think you have to change them or walk away, then YOU actually may be the toxic one.

  48. 'Stop your bitching, and fight your way through it' has been my go to for toxic people. I've been going about it all wrong, for years.

  49. what if they're a bunch of popular toxic girls that loves gossiping about people behind their back that I have as classmates and they already targeted me as their next victim? they would purposely laugh at me, talk about me behin my back (I heard them), tease me, make snarky comments to my face, about anything and everything and I really hate the toxicity.. I man I wore a hairband once and they got a whole lot of people laugh and make rude comments about it.. I mean ..what? I''m wearing a freaking hairband

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